Wanna Gain Superpowers?

Relationships. I'd like to ask Professor X about them (rather than asking Dr. Phil, for example). Maybe cause I'd really like to know how real, mutant, out-of-this-world superheroes would usually solve their romantic disputes and ask for forgiveness for their un-human mistakes. Would they say "I'm sorry, I'm a mutant", "Is not you, its my planet"? Or maybe for those from this world, made by especial circumstances, an "I'm sorry honey, I was bitten by the wrong spider" would suffice.

The thing is, when it comes to relationships, I'd wish we could all develop the healthy habit (actual superpower) of cutting the crap up just once in a while. Of course! There oughta be romance, oh God LET there be SOME mistery, but c'mon, we're humans... We (both genders) have our ways of screwing up and people, we're gonna DO it. We women will cry for no reason, you dudes will say (or do) insensitive stuff that will makes us cry while you'll frustratingly think we're crying for no reason, then you'll try to make it up and, since you have noooo idea of what happened (even when you asked xD) you could get a tender reaction from us until we get it and we get all bitchy at your throats for not knowing what you did XD Yeah, seriously girls, shouldn't we learn from 100th time it happens? Take the flowers, go straight to "making up" X> xD. Then, from our justified (maybe not) bitchiness, you'll throw another justified (maybe not), non-curve, insensitive ball at us repeating the crying, bitching, insensitive cycle ... and so on.

As it turns out, not only girls would cry and not only guys would say insensitive things. But we're pretty much victims of our own social stereotypes and judgments. And, we quickly tend to forget that though we are, metaphorically, from different "emotional" planets, we're from this very same world. We express ourselves differently, but we're pretty much made from the same material. Moreover, we both developed from this one, Transformers-like (that sadly, would only espontaneusly transform once, according to the chromosomes info it has within reach), incredible design.

So girls, guys don't quite get us most of the time. And let's face it dammit, who does?! Sometimes we don't even get ourselves. I swear there were times when if I had gotten flowers for myself in order to cheer me up, I would've shoved them up my own... flower vase. Guys, you not getting us does not mean we're crazy. We're a freaking hormones playground! On top of that, we're brought up to be CARING and SENSITIVE mothers, sisters, friends, girlfriends, wifes... oh well. It's like you inquisitors would assing anything you don't understand or that you do not see clearly through, to the forces of evil, burning every witch who cries for no reason in a big-ass bonefire.

And I'm addressing just an itty bitty portion of what our differences could mean in a relationship within which no one remembers we're humans and heavier yet, no one remembers that some of us are women, some others are men. And WE'RE ALL different. In our human condition, relationships will always enclose challenges. I can't really know if gay relationships work better since the gender condition is the same, but there's still the same old human issues. Even as all items of the same specie (without considering gender characteristics), WE'RE DIFFERENT. We won't see eye to eye on eeeeevery single thing. But if we did, where's the fun in that? 8>

Let's stop idealizing and let's love each other for exactly who we are. I'm not saying stop evolving, I'm not saying stop trying to be better, this is not base for the typical "just love me for who I am, take it or leave it". This is a "let's live here on Earth, know and love (in every detail) the wonderful, complex race that pretty much every freaking 'real' superhero devotes his life to protecting". Yeah that's right, us. Looking back from where I stand, I can tell who I really loved from remembering, in great detail, their goofy and more annoying "defects" with a chuckle and realizing that, knowing those weird, awkward, characterizing features, made me fall even harder in love :J In a different kind of love vibe, this is comparable to what I felt with my sister when, the day after a really funny set of events on a night of tequila celebration (xD!), we cracked each other up laughing about the weirdest features of ourselves we did not know one had noticed about the other XD I mean, peculiar shit that you would swear no living soul knows about you or even cares to notice. Not only you're not the only one with this kind of "dark side" (though I don't mean evil, I just mean odd), but the people who really loves you the most, cares to notice, notices and loves you with and for it :)

So DO WE need superpowers? Mind reading, X-ray vision, exciting transportation methods, super hearing... Nah. What we really need is patience, the capacity of seeing ourselves and each other as who/what we are, and loving based on reality, on humanity. If you screw up and you think is worth it, find your way back, if you love your significant other (and you're loved back), you'll know the way of finding out how. Otherwise, you'll just find your way of moving on.

But if you guys are still looking for superpowers, brake up with your girlfriends. It doesn't matter how much of an asshole you've been with them or how much of a good-for-nothing she made you feel while she was with you, as soon as you brake it up, she'll turn you into (well, unless you're divorcing... x> xD) freaking Captain America. The good news girls, it doesn't take us much to realize, that sometimes, we act GENUINELY crazy. xD

"Make tea, not war."